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One weed at a time

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I spent about 2 hours yesterday pulling out the weeds that had overtaken my little garden. This time of year is when they go nutso. I always try to grab them by the roots so they won’t revisit me in 2 days.

Sometimes when I look at the whole patch of them I become overwhelmed to the point of wondering if I should just walk away and let the garden go for the summer.

If only I could sell them! I would be a rich woman!

But I know that if I don’t start with one I will never be able to get this mess cleaned up.

So I begin….

I started thinking about weeds and my relationships.

Jason and I have been having some “interactions” lately. Some are the kind that make you feel good and some well….not so much.

We don’t like to call them arguments, fights or ultra cations because that just sounds wrong. 🙂

The thing that we find is that often in the middle of our moments of intense communication it seems like we get to a point where one of us says to the other, “how do we get past this?”
It’s not that either one of us really wants to be cantankerous or mean spirited.
It just gets a little ugly.
And… we want a resolution.

We want the outcome to look better than the way we entered the “disagreement”.

The bottom line is usually what starts as one thing moves into something else completely. And in it we often realize that this is REALLY about the something else that was never resolved.

Can I get a witness to that?

Often in relationships we think it’s about the obvious but if we are willing to dig a little deeper we may find it’s about rejection or mistrust. Or maybe it’s really about not feeling validated or appreciated. How about lack of communication or time?

Whatever it is, Just like weeding if we pull out the root it’s much easier to take care of the problem. If we focus on the top of the weed it will pop up again and again.

Ahh yes… and there are seasons when those weeds feel so overwhelming it’s hard to know where to start.
But.. If we don’t start with one…
the whole garden may be overtaken.

The whole relationship could end up in shambles if we don’t start with that One weed.

It’s tough work…gardening is!

And relationships are even harder.

To know how to nurture, water, weed and care for someone can be somewhat daunting.
To really listen and apologize when my loved ones tell me how I have hurt them.

Without justification. Without pretense. Without defense.

I won’t do it perfectly. But it’s important for me to stay on top of the weeds that want to choke out the good crop that will soon be a harvest.


That’s life….

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The last month has been packed with activity.

Here are a couple of highlights that never made the front page.

We have been chasing Micah around the state watching him play ball.

His little team made district champs so we have watched LOTS of baseball.

Late Last night they played their final game with a heartbreaking loss.


It sure felt good to sleep in our own beds again:)!

Lots of life lessons can be learned from sports.
We have been having Lots of fun with water this summer….

And there is nothing so sweet as a daddy and his princess walking hand in hand!

Malaina never got the memo that everyone was wearing formals to the concert….

Actually a very proud moment….

She got the special part of “Mary Poppins”. She did fabulous!

And my sweet guy and I having our own “moment”….

Love you to the moon!

I thank God for this fabulous life he has given me!

It’s an adventure!

It’s a riot!

Some days it’s heartbreaking!

But it’s life…. And I am thankful for one more day to live it!

It’s about Character..

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Does anyone out there every wonder what it would be like to always get whatever you want?

I mean like from the moment you were born…. this never ending supply of goods.

Not just material goods but everything.

I’m talking about like when I was a toddler….what if I would have always been able to win and not share and have anything I pointed my chubby little finger at.


We as adults know that isn’t good for our children.

That it is ACTUALLY good to give them opportunities to share.

And in fact…

It is to the child’s detriment to give them everything they ever want.

It makes them over indulged and spoiled.

Let’s move a little further…

How about when we get to be a little more “mature” (like age 10) and our character gets tested by unfair treatment.

Like the time when I was a kid and I remember being blamed for something I knew I hadn’t done.

Or I was in a contest and the judge thought someone else had done better then I had. Even though I felt like I had worked just as hard.

Or when I was in high school ….

After moving to a larger school in the eleventh grade I realized I was swimming in a bigger pool of fish and I had to learn lessons from the bench.

Or the crush in which the affection was not returned.
Ahh… the heartache!
Should I go on…

You get it right?
I understand looking back that really ALL that was good for me.

Not fun.
Sometimes Not fair.
A lot of pain and discomfort.
But It actually deepened me.

And yet the funny thing is I STILL don’t like it.
When it happens to me or my children or anyone else I love.

There is something in me that still reacts and cries…

However, I really know that it is happening to bring about a better end!

It’s really about Hope!

“For we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us”. ~Roman 5:3-4

Hope… so when we face our personal “character building class” we can say,

We have a hope that does not disappoint us.

He is creating something lasting in His vessel.

And that gives me something to smile about!

Mocha Frappe….

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Do you love smoothies and coffee drinks?

Me too!

I don’t love how much they cost though~

My friend showed me how to make these wonderful Frappes!

It is so simple, and so delicious!
The only difference is I use freshly brewed espresso instead of the instant coffee.

My whole family is loving them. I hope yours does too!

Happy Sunday my friend!

Whatever is true…

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This summer some friends of mine and I are reading the book…

Lies Women believe, By Nancy Lee Demoss

I would recommend it.

At least if you’re a woman.

It has been so good so far.

I have become very aware of how the enemy likes to whisper deception in my ear.
When I am feeling vulnerable or insecure he likes to jump right in and make sure I know that the rumor I just heard is in fact who I am. He likes to try to make me believe the lie in order to keep my joy offset by sorrow and my confidence of who Christ has called me to be diminished by thoughts of inadequacy.

The outline she gives is this…

The progression from deception to Bondage goes like this….

1. Listen to the lie.
Just like Eve. “Listening to things that aren’t true is the first step toward ultimate bondage and death.”
“If we allow our minds to dwell on things that aren’t true, sooner or later we will”……

2. Believe the lie.
“Listen to the lie, dwell on it and sooner or later you will”….

3. Act on the lie.

“What we believe will be seen in the way we live”.

This throws us into bondage.

She goes on to say that “every area of bondage in our lives can be traced back to a lie”.

So what to do?

I believe I need to fill my mind daily with the truth of God’s word.
Do I do this?
Unfortunately no.
Sometimes my days become so full of stuff I forget the most important One who will give me what I need.
But Let me assure you….I can tell by my thoughts and my attitudes what has been feeding me.

I find in my desperation I become much more intense about hearing what God says to me because I know if I go down the hopeless road of believing the enemy’s lies it will lead to destructive behaviors and ultimately death.

Having the Word of truth ready on my lips is what I find to be powerful. So when the lies come I can counteract it with truth.

If you have already read this book I would love to hear what you have learned from it.

The Lion’s Den

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The rope lowers him slowly, slowly down into a large dark hole…..

As the man scans the large area, it’s so dark his eyes have trouble adjusting, but as they do he realizes he is not alone.

No, he is certainly not alone.

He sees that the guests whom he will be bunking with tonight are not your run of the mill roommates. They are furry and large and look mighty hungry.

Do you think his heart was pounding?

What was Daniel thinking as he saw those mammoth lions?

Do you think the large beasts were pacing?

I find it fascinating that there is nothing recorded in Daniel about what happened in the den that very long night.
I would have loved to know if Daniel was on his knees the entire time or if he was sleeping soundly.

Did he glance nervously at his shady cell mates?

Or did he have an angel sitting with him whispering promises of God’s protection to him?

We read In Daniel 6, that “he was lifted from the den, no wound was found on him,


“He trusted in his God!”

It was because of his choice to trust that God chose to deliver him.

And the end of the passage reads….

Then King Darius wrote to all the people, nations and men of every language throughout the land:

“May you prosper greatly!

I issue a decree that in every part of my kingdom people must fear and reverence the God of Daniel.
For he is the Living God and he endures forever; his kingdom will not be destroyed, his dominion will never end. He rescues and he saves; he performs signs and wonders in the heavens and on the earth. He has rescued Daniel from the power of the lions.”

Are you facing something today that requires trust?

Are you wondering if this may be the one time God may have overslept?

Remember the God who delivered Daniel is the SAME God we serve today.


He Does


He Will

Deliver you from the lions mouth.

As Daniel did so WE must Trust in his provision even when we can’t see it with our eyes.

“I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!”~Mark 9:24

July 4th, 2010

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For the 4th of July we headed to Indianapolis for a little get away with our friends Ken and Kris and my sister Cindy, her husband Allen and 2 youngest boys.

We had such a relaxing time at an indoor water park/hotel.

Here are some pictures of our weekend.

This is Malaina,Kasey, Cory and Sophie
And here are the fish…. Malaina, Jalen and Benji
Awwhhh! Cousins who are great friends as well.
On the lazy river….

And my sweet faced boy…Micah…we had a little scare with him….On Sunday we headed over to the children’s museum~We were all on one floor and when it came time to leave we couldn’t find him. Well, he’s a big boy and I really wasn’t frightened about his safety.

I figured he just had started looking and forgot to keep track of the group.

After searching the entire floor a number of times I started getting a little less relaxed about finding him. So I went up to the info desk and asked them if they had seen a missing boy, 10 years old with a blue shirt. We’ve often prompted them that if they get lost to find a lady who looks like a mom and ask her to call our cell phone #’s. I knew that he would be frantically trying to find us.

Nope, no one had reported in. But she said they would announce him over the loud speaker.

They did.

Well by this time the entire party was searching for him. Jason and I rechecked where we had already looked. No sign! Now I’m fighting my panic. I started praying and asking God to show me where he may have gotten to. And then the fear started creeping in….WHAT IF!

What If someone took him!!

One more time around the Dino Den…Check that bathroom one more time….Info desk still hadn’t seen him…The train station….the halls….

Where are you Micah?

Finally I got up enough nerve to ask the lady at the desk if any child has ever been kidnapped from here. She reassured me that they have 100% recovery rate.

That helped.

Still no answers…..

And then just as security was paged to start looking, my brother in law appeared and said they found him.

He was on the next floor up.

He had been looking at some things and when we left that area we thought everyone was together but he had somehow not realized we were leaving and was just lost in his thoughts. He didn’t even realize he was lost all that time! He had been separated from us for almost 45 minutes.

Well, He got a pretty big hug from Mama Bear who was thrilled to see this face once again!
Benji and Sophie

Oh yes It was Barbie month….And as you can see Jason’s a BIG fan! 🙂

And then we headed back home.

Just in time for FIREWORKS!

We added our friends Ed and Julie to the group and had a fabulous end to the day.

Waiting for fireworks is always some of the best times….

Sophie, Ryan and Kasey had fun running around~

finding airplane rides…
Here Is my friend Julie….She is such a sweet heart!

What a fun filled day!

I am so thankful for the freedoms we have in our country.

So thankful to be an American!

So glad to have friends we can share tears and laughter with!

So appreciate sleeping in my own bed again tonight!:0