So lately Jason and I have been having some “strained fellowship”. Can anyone identify with that? Over the past couple of weeks we have been so over extended that we hardly have time to look at each other let alone have any knock down, drag outs because, well there just isn’t time.
But I knew it was coming….I could feel it stirring. It was just time to have a good one!
We went to see “fireproof” on Friday night. I was sitting there thinking, “I wonder if he saw that, awe, how sweet is that? Maybe if he tried the love dare we could be better.” Basically “all about me thoughts”. We talked on the way home about it but there was still unfinished business.
Then Sunday night we were able to hash it out. He talked about his issues with me for 3 minutes and 34 seconds and then it was my turn. I won’t say how long I talked cause frankly it’s just embarrassing, but I’m sure I covered everything all the way back to 1944. (seriously because I probably brought up something about his parents)
And I felt better. We kissed and made up and all is fine right?
Then Monday I came across a blog
Desiring to be Loved or Seeking to love…
The premise is simply am I seeking to love as much as I am needing to be loved?
Is that why I do things? So I can be loved? Ouch!
I wonder what would happen if I spent as much energy thinking about how I can love him, as I do worrying that he doesn’t love me correctly.
Maybe I need to take the Love Dare.
Does that mean that I can’t express needs? I certainly hope not, but if I spend more time thinking about his needs, I will be a more pleasant wife. Mostly a more pleasant everything.
If I do things to please people so they will love me I will slip into a black hole of misery. No one can love me perfectly all the time. So eventually I will be disappointed and then feel “unloved”.
I know this stuff right? Now I need to get busy!
What ideas do you have to make your guy feel loved? (no TMI answers please:))